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This blog is for youth and adults alike. If you experience cyber bullying

Do:

  • Save messages, texts, and e-mails. Keep these as evidence of what is going on. One way to do this is to take screen shots of the offensive messages, pictures or images.
  • Talk to your parents, teachers, or other adults you trust. Get some support as soon as you can, even if you are just confused about what you are experiencing.
  • Block the bully. If you are getting mean texts or messages, block the sender. If you are in a chat room with one or more others, leave the room.
  • Remain your best self. Getting mean or angry back at the bully does not hurt them, it hurts you. Remember that the drama they are trying to create is their drama, not yours.
  • Keep a close watch on your privacy settings on all apps you use. Do you know who can see what you post? Can strangers or people you don’t know well see what you write?

Don’t

  • Remember that bullies usually want their victims to react. It’s what makes them feel powerful. Don’t give that to them!
  • The quickest way to make cyber bullying worse is to “fight back.” It also turns you into a bully too, and who needs that? Remember that everything you post will remain available forever, for anyone else to see, even if you try to delete it.
  • Blame yourself! If you have received unwelcome, harmful messages or pictures from a bully, you might wonder what you did to deserve it? The answer is NOTHING! You didn’t do anything that caused them to be mean to you. So please don’t blame yourself.
  • Stay silent. The longer you hold the bullying in, the worse it may feel.
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Dr. Chris Downs has devoted much of his professional career to improving services and outcomes for older, at-risk youth. Chris is President of The Downs Group LLC, based in Seattle and has the pleasure of working with many talented professionals in child welfare and allied areas including his company Associates.